The great news is no one can be a better you than you!

First, everything about you goes together. When you truly know this, there’s a whole and consistent message that you experience and express. When you have a clear, strong sense of yourself — you will feel the wholeness deeply. You communicate it naturally in what you say and do.

When you are expressing you, visually and non-verbally, you will like yourself better. Other people will understand and relate to you better.  Likely you will appreciate them even more. When you are proud to be you you even enjoy being you more!

Begin by giving up comparisons.

You are you and you can only be you. Many women have learned this already, but if you ever find yourself comparing yourself to others, this is a truth that can set you free. When you have let go of comparisons, you truly enjoy your friends in new ways!

There is no freedom, joy, or satisfaction trying to compete with others.

You can always find someone who is prettier, younger, richer, or more talented. And so can I, but so what?! If you’re younger now, you won’t always be. If you’re comparing yourself you’re not embracing just being you. There’ll never be a better you.

After you accept this, you can start to really find out about you.

When you realize there will never be another you, you can stop comparing and give up competing.  Find out what’s great about you and start to enjoy being you. The Inner-Outer Process of Designing Your Self takes you by the hand and leads you in this.

It’s a myth that many women fall for that “you can be anything you desire.”

There are many things that you can be, countless things you can do, and much that you can have. There is limitless potential for you. But none of us can be everything and anything. If you are tall and athletic, you are not delicate and petite. Yet, when you see your harmony, you can be beautiful.

We need to give up trying to be everything because it is unrealistic, counter-productive, and frustrating. This is not a valid way of looking at ourselves and leads some women thinking that they just aren’t trying hard enough. Others have some major success, yet wind up in the Superwoman or Supermom syndrome, trying to be everything to everyone all the time.

There are many things any particular woman can do. Think of this as a range of possibilities that every human being has within themselves. Some of which are more likely for you than others. But not everyone could become a world class athlete, top scientist, or opera star. But everyone can develop their best Self.

You’ve heard the saying, “Be the best you can be.”

This is a positive statement if you interpret it as “you can always improve and become a person who expresses more virtues and worthwhile qualities.”  But in the most literal sense, it is an impossible goal because there is no ceiling on how good or “perfect” a person can become!  So, no matter how great we become, can’t we always be greater? 

If you interpret it that way, “being the best you can be” is unattainable. Some people realize this and give up.  Don’t. Just learn to like yourself.

No matter how much we have, there’s always something else we’re hoping for or working toward. That newer car, the bigger house — oh, no! This can turn into a vicious circle.  The more we strive, the more we find to aim for and we never get there.

Find reasons to like yourself now.  Some people hold back from liking themselves until they are perfect and never get to it. Just be you.

With being, doing and having, the goal is to be grateful for who you are, what you get to do, and all that you have.

The goal is really to accept your humanity and continue living as the Best Essential You. In pursuit of Designing Your Self with harmony you’ll learn how to do this yourself. You will enjoy your Self and others more.

By embracing the real “You” it’s natural to experience a deeper sense of satisfaction in your life and with yourself.