The great news is no one can be a better you than you!

First, everything about you goes together. When you truly know this, there’s a whole and consistent message that you experience and express. You communicate it naturally in what you say and do. When you are expressing you, visually and non-verbally, you will like yourself better. Other people will understand and relate to you better.  And you can be proud to be the Best Essential You.

First, just give up comparisons.

You are you and you can only be you. Many women have learned this already, but if you ever find yourself comparing yourself to others, this is a truth that can set you free.

There is no freedom, joy, or satisfaction trying to compete with others.

You can always find someone who is prettier, younger, richer, or more talented. And so can I, but so what?! There’ll never be a better you.

After you accept this, you can start to really find out about you.

If you can realize and accept this basic truth you can stop comparing and give up competing.  Find out what’s great about you and start to enjoy being you. The Designing Your Self™ process takes you by the hand and leads you in this.

It’s a myth that many women fall for that “you can be anything you desire.”

Now I do believe that you can be, do, and have a lot. There is limitless potential for you. But none of us can be everything and anything. If you are tall and athletic, you are not delicate and petite. But you can be beautiful.

We need to give up trying to be everything because it is unrealistic, counter-productive, and frustrating. This is not a valid way of looking at ourselves and leads some to think they just aren’t trying hard enough. Others wind up in the Superwoman or Supermom syndrome, trying to be everything to everyone.

There are many things any particular woman can be and do. Think of this as a range of possibilities that every human being has–some which are more likely for you than others. But not everyone could become a world class athlete, top scientist, or opera star. But everyone can develop their best Self.

You’ve heard the saying, “Be the best you can be.”

This is a positive statement if you interpret it as “you can always improve and become a person who expresses more virtues and worthwhile qualities.”  But in the most literal sense, it is an impossible goal because there is no ceiling on how good or “perfect” a person can become!  So, no matter how great we become, can’t we always be greater?  This can turn into a vicious circle.  The more we strive, the more we find to aim for and we never get there.

Find reasons to like yourself now.  Some people hold back from liking themselves until they are perfect and never get to it.

If you interpret it that way, “being the best you can be” is unattainable. Some people realize this and give up.  Don’t. Just learn to like yourself.

The goal is really to accept your humanity and continue living as the Best Essential You. In pursuit of Designing YourSelf™ with harmony you’ll learn how to do this yourself. By embracing the Best Essential You, you can experience a deeper sense of satisfaction in your life and with yourself.